[Paula] is an outstanding therapist; particularly suited to developing programs for career women. Her personal and professional growth is an example of tapping one's maximum potential.
- Dr. Anil Godbole, Chicago, IL
You can take charge of your life now!
You have all the ingredients to succeed in your life. Women
Taking Charge: 5 Steps to Succeed in Life and Work is your guide.
This book speaks to all women who want to reach their highest job potential,
attain better health, gain internal strength and develop deeper self-respect.
This slim, information-rich and highly readable book for women contains
not only sound guidance, but practical tips, case histories, workbook
exercises, resources and a "Five Step Taking Charge" process for dealing
effectively and positively with anger.
The book also includes a comprehensive list of organizations and agencies
that provide support and civil rights information for the reader who plans
to take further action to expand her choices--the key to having and enjoying
a more fulfilling life.
This book has helped thousands of women take charge and succeed in life
| A short excerpt from the book
Women Taking Charge: 5 Steps to Succeed
in Life and Work
Creative Options: Workbook Exercises for
Growth (Chapter 7)
EXERCISE SIX: Visualization Exercise for Coping with Stressful
You will have more control over your behavior if you use visualization
to assist you to reach your goal. Visualization will help you stay
focused on your goal.
The following visualization is not intended to "get rid" of your
frustration/anger, rather, it is intended to help you realize that
you always have choices regarding: 1) how you respond and deal with
circumstances, and 2) how you can reduce stress and continue to
Get into a comfortable position either sitting or lying down.
Close your eyes and take several slow, deep breaths. Allow your
body to relax, turning your head back and forth, lifting your shoulders
up and down and relax these muscles as you exhale. Tense and relax
any other areas of your body where you notice tension. Continue
to use your breathing as the tempo for your relaxation. Think to
yourself: "I relax with each exhale."
Now, remember a recent situation at work which caused stress for
you. Picture the scene as it occurred. Notice what was going on.
Pay attention to any tensions in your body as you recall this scene.
Continue to visualize the scene in your mind while you take a deep
and relaxing breath. As you do this, begin to feel as if a spring
breeze is blowing upon you. This breeze is refreshing and light
and you feel a sense of calmness all about you. Continue to breathe
easily and to relax while feeling this breeze.
Begin to picture in your mind that you are walking through a forest.
As you continue to breathe, notice the vivid green color of the
forest. See the sun peeking through the treetops. See the branches
of the trees swaying easily in the breeze. Hear the birds chirping.
Feel the breeze blow gently on your face.
Now, bringing this sense of relaxation with you, return to the stressful
work scene in your mind and continue to repeat the breathing and
relaxing technique until you are able to view the scene without
reacting with tension or anger.
This method takes practice but it is worth the effort. By practicing
visualization, you can learn to respond in a more effective way.
It is important to understand that you are not ignoring your anger.
Rather, you are noticing and accepting it and deciding consciously
not to react at the moment. You can process angry feelings at a
later time when it is safe and appropriate to do so. The visualization
method will help you think more clearly about what you can do to
change the situation for your benefit.
You are in control of your anger; your anger is not in control
Women Taking Charge: 5 Steps to Succeed
in Life and Work is a useful tool for people going through
transitions and reevaluating their personal and professional goals.
I believe this would be a valuable self-help methodology for sorting
out priorities and determining how to move forward.
- Deborah Dagit, Director of Diversity,
Silicon Graphics, Inc., Mountain View, CA
Paula reminds women (and men) that feelings
of anger and frustration are important signs something's not working.
Included in Women Taking Charge: 5 Steps To Succeed In Life
And Work is a clearly written process for dealing with anger
and, even better, effective ways to take the emotions of anger at
work and create an improved situation."
- Mary Lautner, Program Manager, Sun Microsystems,
Palo Alto, CA
Paula Leslie is an accomplished professional
who has experienced what she writes about. Women Taking Charge:
5 Steps To Succeed In Life And Work has the necessary information,
nicely presented, that will enable women to handle anger issues
in the workplace. We men could also benefit from this information.
- Sid Wilkins, Ph.D., Anger Violence, Workplace
Consultant, Chairman - Wilkins and Wilkins International, Inc.
Women Taking Charge: 5 Steps to Succeed in Life and Work
is available on Amazon.
Please contact us at Paula@ELStrategies.com or 650 324-2512 for information on speaking, consultations, or the book Women Taking Charge.